I believe the single most important thing I can do to keep myself in the “right” place with God is daily Bible reading and journaling. I say daily because that’s my goal, though to be completely honest there are times that I skip this practice for a day, two days, even a week at a time. It is in the skipping that I realize it’s importance as everything goes awry without the daily infusion of God’s Word into my life and my reflection upon it. God speaks to me through His Word.
Welcome to FREEDOM FRIDAY – A devotional, emotional, spiritual and sometimes hysterical series that I will be sharing on occasional Fridays, in addition to my regular Old Things New posts. Why? Because though once bound in chains Christ has set me free – FREE to live, to love, to dance, to sing, to be who God created me to be!
Proverbs 17 was on my reading schedule this past week. Before reading I always usually ask God to highlight any particular verse that He wants to speak through that day. This day it was Proverbs 17:4. Here is how it reads in The Voice Bible.
Wrongdoers perk up when listening to gossip. Click To Tweet
I’d never heard this verse worded quite this way before so I checked out a few other versions. Most simply say that wrongdoers “listen” to gossip (I love how switching up the version of the Bible I read from time to time brings fresh new perspective).
I don’t think of myself as a gossip – anymore – though it used to be that I could add my input with the best of them! I’m NOT Perfect Patti but God has graced me with enough growth that I can usually keep my mouth shut when I shouldn’t speak – at least when it comes to gossip! When it comes to saying silly things, NOT so easy!
After reading this verse I decided to write down a few questions to ask myself:
- Do my ears “perk up” at gossip?
- Do I become more attentive or do I move away from the conversation?
- Does it depend on who the conversation is about?
- What if it is about someone who has hurt me or someone I love?
- What if it is about someone who always seems to come out on top?
- What if it is about someone who isn’t on the “same side” as I’m on?
- Do I ever have a sense of vindication or self-satisfaction when I hear an evil word about another person?
- Is any of this okay, as long as I don’t say a word of gossip out loud myself?
I believe that to be a listener to gossip can be just as bad as being the gossiper.
- By listening without speaking we can appear to be in agreement.
- By listening we may believe information about another person that is untrue.
- By listening, our view of another person can be tainted.
- Finally – if our ears perk up at gossip there may be something inside ourselves that we need to deal with – unforgiveness, judgement, ill will, hatred, insecurity, etc.
Having said all this, let me tell you that sometimes I get hurt and feel like verbally bashing the one who hurt me. I have people who say unkind things about me and to me (when you put yourself out there on a blog that’s going to happen).
When I’m hurt I try to talk to God before running to find someone to share with. Sometimes we need human “one-anothers” also, as the Bible tells us to encourage one another and stir up one another to brotherly love. I have my husband and a couple of trusted friends that have heard my woes from time-to-time and have helped me to see things through God’s eyes. Even so, it is important that I be careful and test my sharing in prayer. God is faithful to show me if I am gossiping (talking with the intent of bringing harm to another) or sharing to receive feedback and insight into a situation.
Haha! That makes me think of something funny I heard from a woman with regard to talking about her husband, “I'm not gossiping, I'm just reporting! Click To Tweet”
Maybe some of you can relate the words I’ve written and need to spend some time asking God if you’ve been an active participant in gossip even if you’ve been a silent participant.
Prayer: Search me oh Lord, and show me if there is any wicked way in me. Cleanse me from anything within me that would cause me to “perk up” at a word of gossip. Give me strength to stand strong against the temptation to sin, even in the listening, and give me words of grace to walk away from situations that compromise my relationship with You and with others. Amen.
Note: The Voice Bible is an actual translation, not a paraphrase, but it is unique in that it was written by esteemed Bible scholars in collaboration with pastors, writers, musicians, poets, and other artists. The goal of this translation was to help bring to believers joy and wonder at God’s revelation. If you are interested in trying a different version for your daily Bible reading I’ve added the link below.
The Voice Bible, Step Into the Story of Scripture
In my next Freedom Friday post I’ll be sharing a frightening vision that a dear and godly friend had, regarding those things we hang onto and how they cloud our relationship with God. It was important to her life personally and I sense that it is an important message for all of us to hear.
Until then, blessings to you dear readers,
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Peggy says
January 16, 2016 at 12:21 pmI love being able to come here and let you touch my heart. So refreshing, Patty.
Shelly says
January 17, 2016 at 1:47 amThis was a great write up. Really makes me triple think. This is such a huge concern for me, especially as I step up into the Women’s Minsitry Position. Thank you for sharing this!! I really look forward to next weeks post as well!!
(Sometimes I am missing the notifications! I had to come onto the computer and found this one didn’t show up on my phone. Ugghhh!! ) I want to read all your blog posts! I love and miss you, Patti!
Sharon H says
January 17, 2016 at 9:57 pmMany toes might be stepped on with this message….as well they should be. It is very easy to cross over that line of caring about someone and sharing that concern with another….and suddenly finding yourself gossiping more than caring.
I’m sorry if someone has deliberately been mean or hurtful to you through your blog. But there are people in this world so ugly on the inside that they want others to feel ugly, too. Just like many gossipers need to tear others down, so that they may feel built up.
It’s important, like you said, to have a trusted one or two people you can share/confide in and seek comfort from another human. No matter how deeply connected we are with the Lord, and able to go to Him, we are still human and need that human touch and communication. It’s always good to have someone who can pray with us, and more importantly, for us….when we hurt to the point that we can’t find the words ourselves. I’m glad you have that relationship with Mr OTN, and a friend as well. Sometimes we need someone other than, or maybe in addition to, our mate to cry to.
Patti, just know that for every person who tears you down, or tries to…..there are a hundred who want to build you up! You are loved, dear one. You are loved. Phil 1:3
Michele Morin says
January 18, 2016 at 8:31 amOH, this is such a wise collection of thoughts. We need this reminder to guard our words and our hearts in order to preserve godly community!
Sarah Koontz says
January 18, 2016 at 9:27 amI have heard this truth before, and it is a difficult one to swallow…isn’t it? Gossip does make you feel a certain way, whether you are listening or speaking. It makes you feel powerful and connected to the people you are gossiping with. It’s an ugly thing and an ugly feeling, but somehow addictive. All the attributes of sinfulness! Thanks for the reminder that listening to gossip is just as bad as speaking it. Visiting from Monday’s Musings.
Debbie Kitterman says
January 18, 2016 at 11:31 amPatti – such good truth in your words! It love the voice translation on this – and it is a good question to ask ourselves. I think we can easily say – no I’m not gossiping or sharing gossip – but do we perk” up at the sound or thought of it. Hmm something to do some heart searching about! Oh, and I love, love, love your pictures of Tybee, it makes me want to go back. You have a fantastic eye for photography! I am so glad you are my friend in real life and in the virtual/blogging world too! you are such an inspiration to me.
Judy Turnbull says
January 18, 2016 at 12:32 pmI really admired a coworker of mine who never divulged information, never added to the gossip train and chose not to answer when others asked her questions that seemed geared toward gossip. I admired her so much for this, as I would struggle from time to time at the invitation to gossip. I mentioned my observations to her and she said that she had been badly hurt by other’s gossip of her in the past and she refused to do that to another. She became an example for me!
Thanks for writing your post. It’s a good reminder about something none of us like to admit to doing.
Pam Blosser says
January 18, 2016 at 12:52 pmI loved this perspective on gossip. You’ve listed some great questions here that challenge me as I don’t feel like I’m a gossip but I’m not as strong when it comes to listening. Loved also how you mention that we trick ourselves … “I’m not gossiping, I’m reporting.” My equivalent is, “I’m not complaining, just commenting.” I’m a work in progress. Joining you from What Joy is Mine!
Ann says
January 18, 2016 at 2:45 pmGossip is such a difficult subject to cover, especially among believers, as many do not see it as sin or that we have potential to fall into this sin. Proverbs 18:21 says “The tongue has the power of life or death…” I do believe this applies to the problem of gossip. I don’t think we realize how often it can break down others to a point of causing irreversible damage in people’s lives. Thanks for sharing and reminding us all that we need to be wise, seeking God first about how we talk to and/or about others.
Roxy says
January 18, 2016 at 9:41 pmHello Patti, What an excellent study this was! Really gossip is so sly it can creep in without you even being aware you should of kept your mouth closed!
Blessings, Roxy
Lil at Embracing the Lovely says
January 19, 2016 at 9:25 amThese are all great questions to ask ourselves! Thank you for sharing!
Ellen Chauvin says
January 19, 2016 at 2:20 pmPatti, you ask some thought provoking questions here! Am I listening to the gossip? Or walking away? Lovely post with lovely pictures!
Long Ladies says
January 19, 2016 at 3:15 pmThank you for being open and honest about this. Even though I am fairly young, only 20, I find myself struggling with the area of listening to gossip as well as gossiping myself. It’s hard to find the balance between sharing, and harming others when you need to confide in someone.
Reading your post really helped me see more clearly. Thank you so much!
~Haley
Gayl Wright says
January 19, 2016 at 3:59 pmPatti, such a good post. Those are good questions to think on to be sure we are not participating in gossip either actively or passively. Thanks for sharing! Blessings to you!
JES says
January 20, 2016 at 5:08 amThis is excellent Patti! You laid it all out there! Thank you for sharing this encouragement on the Art of Home-Making Mondays at Strangers & Pilgrims on Earth!
Kendra says
January 20, 2016 at 9:39 pmPatti, This was so good, it made me think a lot about some recent conversations I’ve been a part of and your list of questions made me look back and honestly ask myself how I’m doing in the area of gossip. Thank you for the encouragement (and the nudge) to guard not only what I say, but also what I allow myself to listen to.
LisaAppelo@TrueandFaithful.net says
January 21, 2016 at 6:16 pmPatti, gossip just hurts, doesn’t it? It took me a few years to really learn to just walk away, or change the subject or bite my tongue. Oh Lord, that we would love each other enough to honor each other always. Thank you for the good reminder. #livefreeThursday
Nannette says
January 23, 2016 at 8:43 amOuch, ouch and ouch! Praying the Lord will put a watchman at the door of my mouth today. I was your neighbor at Barbie’s!
Patti says
January 23, 2016 at 12:24 pmI get the “ouch” part too! Thanks Nanette 🙂
Elizabeth says
January 23, 2016 at 10:57 pmTo not even listen to gossip, wasn’t something I’d thought much about, until now!
Betty says
January 24, 2016 at 1:44 amThank you for sharing at the Thursday Favorite Things blog hop
Holly Barrett says
January 24, 2016 at 7:55 amI love The Voice version…it always hits in just the right place! Great words and reminder for all of us, Patti!
JES says
January 25, 2016 at 5:31 amGood morning! Just a little note to let you know we FEATURED this post today on the Art of Home-Making Mondays at Strangers & Pilgrims on Earth! 🙂
MM says
January 25, 2016 at 11:42 amFound you here through Strangers & Pilgrims… what a great sharing of a difficult subject. How to know when something is gossip, or when it is truth and needs to be told. One thing I have learned as a child is to remember these 3 things when in a situation that is hard to know what to do… ask yourself: Is it true, is it kind, is it necessary? If you can answer yes to all three questions, then it should not be gossip. I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes things slip out of my mouth before I can ask myself those three questions. Thank you for the fresh reminder to put a watch before my mouth!!! Enjoyed “meeting” you today 🙂
Lyli @3dlessons4life.com says
February 3, 2016 at 2:25 pmLord, help me to be perky only about things that please You.
Convicting post, Patty. Thanks xo