Here we are, at Part 7 in the 8-part series on Perseverance that myself and three talented friends have put together. This week I just so happen to get to spend time with these same friends when we get together for a meet up in Winston-Salem, North Carolina. I am so excited I can hardly wait.
And…in case you haven’t already read our previous posts you can click on the titles below to catch up on each of the articles in the Perseverance series: 🙂
- Bravely Overcoming Fear
- Persevering in Recovery
- When Prayers Remain Unanswered
- The Sting of Rejection
- Wishing, Waiting & Pursuing
- Turn & Face the Changes
Today it’s my turn to share on Persevering Through the Pain to Freedom.
Many of us have events in our pasts that have wounded us deeply, the most lingering of which tend to stem from childhood. As much as we try to overcome it, the pain never quite leaves us. We see others, especially those in Christian circles, walking through life with joy and victory. We try to be positive and live that way too, but there’s “this thing” that we can’t quite seem to shake. Maybe it’s a quick temper, perhaps it’s anxiety that we can’t shut down, maybe it’s a critical spirit that finds the negative in everything, or an overreaction to little things, and we don’t know why.
Often we mask our pain with behaviors or addictions. Drugs, alcohol, impulse buying, perfectionism, workaholism, you name it. We can be so uncomfortable in our own skin that we must keeping moving, running, escaping from whatever “it” is. We simply cannot seem to walk in the freedom that God says is ours. If what the Bible says in Gal. 5:1 is true and,
I’ve heard testimonies from those who, when they became Christ followers, experienced instant deliverance in many areas of their lives. I’m amazed by these great testimonies and truly happy for those who receive immediate deliverance and freedom, just like I’m happy for those who receive immediate healing from sickness. Trouble is, though every healing or deliverance is a miracle of God, not every one happens immediately.
For most of us, even after committing our lives to Jesus, it takes some work on our part to be set free from the residual pain of deep wounds, especially those experienced at a young age.
Some (The Fighters) will say that life has dealt them a bad hand and they simply can’t get over it. It will always be that way. That “thing” has become a part of who they are and they are so used to carrying it around that they don’t even know who they’d be without it. So they fight their way through life.
Others (The Flighters) flee all thoughts that remind them of the pain they carry. They simply won’t go back and face what happened to them and feel that the past is best left in the past. So when uncomfortable situations arise that remind them of what happened they isolate or run away.
Then there are those (The Accomodators) who try to make up for what happened to them by going out of their way to help others, even when they are not fully healed themselves. They seek to keep the peace in all situations and want make things right with the world. People pleasing becomes their method of survival.
These are three personality types that we taught about in Freedom Session and all are ways of avoiding the need to face pain in order to find healing. It does SEEM easier not to face pain head on because facing pain is . . . well . . . painful. But over time, ignoring pain is like choosing not to remove a sliver that has lodged deep within your heel, because it hurts too much to even touch. Over time it festers and becomes infected. Your foot becomes painful to walk on and if the infection is left untreated your whole body can become sick, even to the point of death.
Do YOU have something that needs to be healed? Something that you’ve never faced because it is too painful?
Hand high in the air right here because I’ve been there. I understand.
Yes, I’ve had “things” too. When I shoved those things deep and didn’t face them I lived in denial of how they were working to destroy me. In fact, it was only when it became so bad that I couldn’t live with the pain anymore that I admitted my helplessness to manage my own life, and turned everything over to God. It was also then that I became willing to seek help from others.
It was hard work, persevering through the pain, but the only way through the pain I’d been living with for years was through the pain. Taking it out of hiding to look at it, face-to-face, and doing the work necessary to be healed.
It took prayer; godly counsel; forgiveness of those who’d harmed me; admitting wrong and apologizing to those I’d harmed; forgiving myself – because God already chose to forgive me; forgiving God – even though He is without sin and needs no forgiveness from me! It also took breaking of strongholds that the enemy had in my life due to legal ground I’d given him, breaking of ties to events and people who were toxic to me, and devoting myself to continuing in fellowship with other believers, rather than isolating with my secrets . . .
If this message is speaking to you, please, please, please don’t stay stuck. Don’t waste one more day living in bondage. I’m passionate about this because I see too many Christ followers living in bondage! Click To Tweet It doesn’t have to be that way.
I wish I could take the journey with you. I wish we could walk and talk, and along the way I could share with you how God helped me through the painful places. I’d also tell you of the immense joy that overcame me the day I realized that I was, FINALLY, . . . the-Patti-whom-God-originally-created-me-to-be. I want that joy of discovery for you too!!!
There are many great Christian resources with solid Biblical foundations that are available to help you on the journey. There are amazing programs like Freedom Session (of course I’m partial to FS since we were once Directors of a group), Restoring the Foundations, Cleansing Stream Ministries, and Celebrate Recovery, to name a few. There may also be counseling available through your church (and if you aren’t in a good Bible teaching church please find one – because we need you), or your church may be able to recommend some local Christian counselors who can come alongside to help you.
I’ve talked long, 10 words beyond my 1000 word limit for this post, so I’ll stop now with a prayer. Shhh…we won’t count this or the intro in my word limit 😉
Dear Lord Jesus – Please speak to the one who is reading this and feels like it may be written just for them. Let them know that there is a better way to live than stuck in their pain. Let them know that the things they are doing to try to cover or alleviate the pain are only temporary fixes and that YOU, Creator God, are the only one who can meet all their needs . . . because they were made by You and for You. Please help them in their decision to surrender it all to You, strengthen them for the journey ahead, and continually reveal to them Your great love as you guide them each step of the way. Give them hope as they press through to freedom and the realization of who you created them to be. In Jesus’ mighty name I pray, Amen.
Praying and believing for you 🙂
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